Tag: misunderstanding

This might possibly be a follow on from last week’s post.
Hopefully it will also stand up all on it’s own.

If you try your hand at something new, then how do you feel when trying it for the first time?

If you finish something and then offer it up, but then someone else looks at it and then just adds a little extra, then how can you end up feeling?

For me it can be a case of, six of one snd half a dozen of another.

First reaction can be, did I get it wrong????
Is there a valid reason to why this little extra has been added?
Should I have done this little extra in the first place?

Next reaction (or even the first) could be, ….
What have you done with my work????
It was finished!
Nothing else was needed.
Why have you ruined what I have just done?

So, was the little extra needed in the first place???

Read the title of this post for the answer to that one.

The real question of this post is, how will you react, if someone adds a little extra to what you have just done?

Will you take offence and be upset by …… being done?
This is where the enemy can whisper in our ears, “Just look at what they have done!” Or, “How dare they do ……. with what you have just done.”

If we listen to this thought pattern, then upset is very likely to follow, along with disillusionment possibly not far behind. Which could then possibly leave us with the thought of, “Next time I just won’t even bother trying.”
Not a good place to end up at.

Or could we look at extra, and then do it ourselves the next time we try to do …… ?
Does the extra actually improve what has already been done?
Is it an enhancement to ……… ?

In order to see any improvements to what we have just done, then we need to be willing to see that things can be done better.

To do this we need to be willing to take on guidance from an outside source. (Even if we don’t initially agree with it.)

Sometimes, whether the extra is needed can be black and white.
There can be a definite answer and someone needs to be corrected. (This could so easily be either party involved.)

But more often than not, we can find ourselves in shades of grey, or to put it another way, differences of opinion.

How do we deal with it, when it could be a difference of opinion, that is at the root of the extra being added?

Will we try to rally people to our Way of thinking?
Look, this is actually how it is!
Or will you just hear what I am saying. ????

But is this just trying to justify your point of view?

Can we do better than this?

Could we try to understand what has happened?
Could we try to bring understanding to the one who brought the extra, without causing offence? (Sometimes this may not be an easy task to achieve.)

If we are the one who brought the extra, then how will we react if someone challenges the extra that was brought?
Will we be able to see the others point of view?

Sometimes we can have the best of motives, but the waters can become very muddied without our realising it. Will we also seek to understand the others point of view and then try to respect it, even if it differs from our own?

As a Christian I can also bring the whole thing to my Heavenly Father, for Him to help and guide me in how I should deal with ……
When I do this, will I then listen to His answer/s?
Will I listen if He then corrects me?
Will I listen to to method of how to deal with……. ?

It’s going to be better to listen to my Heavenly Father for how to deal with ……. , rather than to run off on my own and then try to correct or ignore …….. .

Father,
Misunderstanding is what the enemy would love to sow among us.
Help us to be aware of his attempts to disrupt us.
Help us your look to You, Our Loving Heavenly Father, for understanding in place of upset.
Help us to see and understand each other.
Help us to see that different doesn’t necessarily mean wrong, it can sometimes just be different.
Help us to look to You that much more, if we are feeling misunderstood. Amen.