The title of this post has very much so been very relevant to me just recently.
I’ve seen first hand someone worrying over something that I think is actually very small, and should not really be anything to be too concerned about. No I will not be sharing the details, but I do I intend to share some of my thoughts/lessons I have learned, through the experience.
So, where to start?
Repeating the title??
Try to Not just dismiss someone’s problems/difficulties.
If we see someone struggling with something rather small, and what we think is rather insignificant, then it can be very tempting to just brush it off as nonsense. We could possibly be tempted to just say, “Oh come on, just get over it man (or woman)!”
How helpful would such words be???
This is were it can get very confusing right from the start.
For one person, the above words could be just what they need to hear. If the rebuke brings about a change of thinking that leads to holiness, then it could be just the thing to do.
However, if the person receiving the rebuff doesn’t receive the rebuff in a good way, then could it just become an extra weight for them to carry?
The extra weight could reveal itself as thoughts like, “Why am I worrying about this? This is so small and insignificant. Is there something seriously wrong with me, because I just can’t seem to let this go, even though everyone keeps telling me that this is nothing!”
Are you starting to see how this can get very confusing, right out of the starting blocks?
I’m thinking that the only place to start looking into this, is to ask the question, “Why are you saying, what you are saying?”
Are you operating from a position of frustration or love?
If you are operating from a position of frustration, then are you just unloading your frustrations onto someone who is already carrying a load that is too heavy for them, regardless of what you think about the lightness of their load?
Operating from a position of frustration is always going to be a bad starting point.
However, The Lord Our God can turn our bad starts around for His good and His glory. But how much better will it be if we can make a good start?
Could operating from a position of love be a better start?
I’m hoping that everyone is saying yes to that one. 🙂
A rebuke from a friend sent in love should be so much easier to bear with when compared to a rebuke from an enemy who just wants to taunt and ridicule you.
Do you want to be a friend or an enemy to the one in trouble? (No matter how small the trouble is.)
I’ve written about How to help someone who doesn’t want help in a previous post. I’ve also written about (in a round about way) why are you bringing a word of …… to …… in a post called A word from the Lord, or a word from the enemy.
If you are prompted to, then consider having a read/re-read of one or both of them.
If you do see someone struggling with something that you think is just tiny, then is there a better response than just, “Pull yourself together man (or woman)!”
Could you bring words of encouragement instead?
Words of encouragement from the Bible could be a good start.
Philippians 4:13
13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
Jeremiah 29:11
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Psalm 73:26
My flesh and my heart may fail,
but God is the strength of my heart
and my portion forever.
2 Corinthians 12:9
9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
The above are but only a small number of encouraging bible verses that can be found, in the bible.
The bible is actually just fully loaded with the Good Stuff. We just need to read it and be fed by it!
I think that I should try to sum this post up now, before it just becomes an epic full length book. 🙂
If a word of rebuke is needed, then can we bring it in love?
If a word of encouragement is needed, then can we bring that in love?
And Lord, can we please have the discernment to know what is needed, for any given situation.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
